Romance Aint Dead, You're Just Whack

I decided to get personal with my friends on Instagram. As a young single girl surrounded by my beautiful family and friends who are married, engaged, actively dating, and actively wanting to be left alone, I wanted to do a temperature check on love. Are people playing games? Do people still want love? How do we achieve it? What is it for real and where tf is it at? 

Welcome to WHERE TF THE LOVE AT, a fun temporary journalism series for those grown as fxxk.  

Do you think romance is a dying art? Does it exist in your life and/or this generation? Why or why not?

When February approaches people are fearful and it is not just because it is Aquarius season. February is filled with Black history posts, to finding out your possible crush may actually already be in love. This year for Valentine’s Day, I ate my annual chocolate-covered strawberries from Edible Arrangements and ended the night at Top Golf. 

I personally had a great day and I was my own Valentine. I personally love, love even more so Black Love. While scrolling on Instagram it was amazing to see all the love in the world; families, lovers, best friends, siblings, and more. There were people posting flowers from their dads, brothers, etc. Which made me question my followers.  Do they think romance is dead?

The most shocking revelation from talking to a few people is that

1. Men just might be more romantic than women.

2. Some don’t think romance is dead, but it is not easy.

3. Most people think social media has killed romance.

I think the consensus from those who participated in this question is that romance is actually not dead but it is not easy. Social media has also definitely hindered perspectives on love and romance. Many people think romance is these grand gestures when it is actually the small things. Like paying attention to what people are interested in and dislike. Of course, grand gestures are great, but imagine how romantic it would be if instead of a decorated hotel, you knew their favorite film, flowers, food, etc, and put together some specifically designed for them because you listen. I think what makes romance difficult is that people put a lot of pressure on it. If you think about it, in the beginning of times, romance was all about getting to know someone and being kind to them.  

To end this little food for thought segment I wanted to highlight my favorite answer that also received the most hearts, “This is a great [topic]. I think love is still so real. It just takes two people to be serious and dismiss the noise.” 

So to find romance, dismiss the noise and get to know someone like for reals, for reals.

Thank you to all of those who participated in my survey! This is some good shit.

With an extreme amount of love.

Siri Sonora